When Love Turns Lethal: The Silent Danger of Strangulation in Domestic Violence

Strangulation is one of the most terrifying — and overlooked — forms of domestic violence. Often, there are no visible marks. Yet, it’s one of the clearest warning signs that abuse could turn deadly.

Research shows that when an abuser strangles their partner, even once, the risk of being killed by that person increases by 750%.

That means one moment of violence can become a predictor of murder.

(Glass et al., The Journal of Emergency Medicine, 2008)

Why Strangulation Is So Dangerous

Strangulation cuts off both air and blood flow to the brain. Within seconds, victims can lose consciousness. It can cause long-term brain injury, memory loss, or vocal changes — even when the victim seems “fine” afterward. Many survivors describe it as the moment they thought they were going to die.

Recognizing the Warning Signs

A survivor who’s been strangled may:

Have a sore throat or hoarse voice

Experience dizziness, headaches, or confusion

Show small red dots (petechiae) around the eyes or neck

Struggle to remember details of the assault

These symptoms are often missed or dismissed — which is why awareness matters.

What You Can Do

If someone confides that their partner has ever put their hands around their neck, take it seriously. Encourage them to get medical attention and reach out for help.

Domestic violence is not just about control — it’s about survival.

Every call answered, every story heard, and every resource shared can save a life.

🖤 If you or someone you know is in danger, reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE

(7233) or visit thehotline.org.